Closing the Doors on the Job That Held Me Through So Much Life

Closing the Doors on the Job That Held Me Through So Much Life

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A little over two years ago, I walked through the doors at Allianz thinking I was just signing on to help with a three-month data cleanup project. I had no idea I was stepping into two of the most transformative years of my life.

What started as a short-term contract quickly turned into so much more. More learning, more growth, more life than I ever expected to live while working on a project in Third Party Risk Management.

In my two years here, I:

  • Worked under three different managers, each with their own leadership style and lessons
  • Supported legal, risk, and compliance initiatives across the business
  • Completed over 2,000 third-party risk management assessments with internal stakeholders
  • On- and off-boarded multiple colleagues
  • Navigated mostly remote work while still building real relationships
  • Took on new responsibilities, earned two raises, and was promoted once
  • Learned to work with all kinds of personalities — and grew stronger because of it

But what made this experience unforgettable wasn’t just the work. It was everything that happened outside of it, too.

The Life I Lived While Working This Job

These past two years held some of my biggest personal milestones and growing pains. While working full-time, I also:

  • Moved out of my parents’ house
  • Got my first apartment with a partner
  • Went through a life-changing breakup
  • Moved into my own place — this time, solo
  • Took on multiple leadership roles outside of work
  • Spoke on three professional panels
  • Went on ten trips
  • Started dog sitting (seriously, so many dogs)
  • Made so many new friends — both through work and beyond
  • Rediscovered my love for yoga
  • Supported my sister as she graduated from high school
  • Cried and smiled more times than I can count
  • Went to ten concerts
  • Dated… a lot
  • Showed up for early mornings, late nights, and everything in between

These walls — virtual and physical — held me through it all. This role became a container for my growth, in ways that went far beyond my job description.

The People Who Made It What It Was

I’ll never forget the emergency “calls” and “meetings” that doubled as therapy sessions, the weekly help desk calls that became running jokes, or the long happy hours that turned colleagues into friends.

To the Turnberry–Allianz crew: You turned work into community. Thank you for showing up for each other the way we did.

To my manager: Thank you for being the most supportive boss I’ve ever had. Your example of grace, strength, and leadership is one I’ll carry with me. I truly aspire to be like you.

To the ever-growing circle of work friends: You’re more than coworkers. You’re lifelong people. I’m so glad our paths crossed here.

And to Allianz: Thank you for giving me space to grow — professionally, emotionally, and personally.

A Full-Circle Moment

I’ll always remember interviewing for this job while I was up north at the cabin. Thank gawd I packed a collared linen shirt, found a curling iron, and threw on some makeup… because it led me here.

Thank You to the Past Two Years

Thank you for:

  • The best group of work friends I’ve had to date
  • Mentorship opportunities that shaped me
  • Countless new connections
  • A chance to learn, lead, and fail safely
  • Teaching me how to navigate challenging conversations and personalities
  • Encouraging me to step up — and step out
  • Letting me be a human, not just a headcount

So much life has happened in the past two years. I’m beyond grateful to my client and employer for being part of the backdrop of that chapter.

Now, it’s time for what’s next and I can’t wait! ❤

San Diego: Sunshine, Salt Air, and So Many Steps

San Diego: Sunshine, Salt Air, and So Many Steps

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What good things might come your way this week?

For me, it was the trip I booked during the winter blues back home in Minnesota—an escape to San Diego during the last week of April that gave me sunshine, fresh perspective, and more than 20,000 steps a day.

I stayed in Pacific Beach, just a short walk from both the bay and the ocean, which made it easy to start every morning with a beachside stroll and end the day chasing sunsets. The weather was mostly in the 60s with a mix of light rain and overcast skies. It cooled off at night, so a jacket was essential, but the final day brought full sunshine and that classic San Diego glow.

And I had the best tour guide: my cousin Nora, who’s lived in San Diego for a few years and went to college in California. She knows all the best spots and neighborhoods worth wandering—and lucky for me, she loves to walk as much as I do.

From coastal hikes to local coffee shops, vibrant neighborhoods to hidden trails, this city gave me space to breathe, reset, and move. I followed the sun, found new favorite spots, and left with sandy shoes, tired feet, and a full heart.

Friday: North Park → Pacific Beach → Little Italy

Saturday: PB → Little Italy → Escondido → Sunset Cliffs

  • Morning coffee from The Grounds in PB
  • Walk along the bay and ocean
  • Strolled the Little Italy farmers market and art fair
  • Brunch at Coco Maya – Instagram vibes, good mimosas, and rooftop
  • Spent the afternoon sipping wine in Escondido
  • Watched the sunset at Sunset Cliffs
  • Dinner and drinks back at North Park & Pizza

Sunday: Yoga → Coronado → Torrey Pines → La Jolla → Ocean Beach

  • Yoga Sculpt at Yoga Box
  • Walked Pacific Beach and grabbed coffee from The Grounds
  • Explored Coronado – saw the famous hotel, walked the beach
  • Drove to Torrey Pines for a hike with a view
  • Said hi to the seals in La Jolla
  • Checked out Ocean Beach
  • Dinner at OB Noodle House
  • Sunset at OB Dog Beach

Monday: Final Strolls & Slow Moments

  • Walked the PB bay and ocean
  • Back to Lovesong Coffee for one last Bee’s Knees
  • Yoga Sculpt at Hot Box
  • Smoothie from The Mad Beet
  • Beach walk and a slow, sunny pool afternoon

Until Next Time, San Diego

San Diego, you were just what I needed.

From ocean breezes to mountaintop views, early morning coffee runs to golden hour hikes, every step reminded me how healing it is to move, explore, and breathe in something new. I came looking for sunshine and ended up finding a reset—one trail, one neighborhood, one coastline at a time.

There’s something magical about a place that encourages you to walk a little further, linger a little longer, and pay attention to the beauty all around you. I’m heading home with sandy shoes, sun-kissed skin, and a whole new list of favorite places—but more than anything, I’m heading home feeling lighter.

Until next time, San Diego. I’ll be back for more.


Pura Vida: A Journey Through the Chakras in Nosara, Costa Rica

Pura Vida: A Journey Through the Chakras in Nosara, Costa Rica

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Nosara, was nourishment for my mind, body, heart, and soul. Seven days of sunshine, connection, salt water, laughter, yoga, breathwork, and self-discovery—exactly what I needed.

I had the privilege of attending the Journey Through the Chakras retreat, hosted by Anna from Wild Lights. Going into this experience, I held a few intentions close:

  1. Soak in the sunshine, swim in the ocean, and be outside.
  2. Retreat, relax, reset, reflect, and renew.
  3. Open my chakras and deepen my self-awareness.
  4. Restore my mind, body, heart, and soul.
  5. Disconnect from work and day-to-day responsibilities.
  6. Gain clarity on my next steps in life and career.

I arrived in Costa Rica with an open heart and mind, not fully sure what to expect but excited for the journey ahead. What I found was pure nourishment.

A Week of Ease and Flow

One of the things I appreciated most about this retreat was the absence of decision-making. For an entire week, I didn’t have to plan, coordinate, or worry about logistics. Anna took care of every detail—from airport transportation and accommodations to nourishing meals prepared by Chef Sara and her team. I felt completely supported, which allowed me to fully immerse myself in the experience.

Our home for the week, Tres Hermanas Villa, was a dream. Nestled just minutes from the beach, the villa featured an open-air dining space, a private pool, and an outdoor yoga studio that became our sanctuary. Each room even had an outdoor shower, adding to the magic of it all.

Getting around Nosara was an adventure in itself. Instead of Uber or Lyft, we hopped in Tuk Tuks—small, covered motorcycle taxis that zipped us around town. Every ride felt like a little thrill.

The weather? Absolute perfection. Full sun and 90 degrees every day.

A Typical Day in Nosara

Each morning, we began with a lesson on a specific chakra, followed by yoga. After breakfast, we had free time to explore, relax, or soak in the ocean. Afternoons brought more workshops or quiet moments of reflection. Evenings were filled with nourishing meals, heartfelt conversations, and sometimes, unexpected moments of pure joy—like ecstatic dance night.

Takeaways from the Week

I didn’t leave this retreat as a completely changed person, nor did I have any massive life revelations—but I did leave feeling refreshed, light, and deeply grateful.

What I’m taking with me:

  • Prana is everywhere. Life force energy flows through food, breath, movement, music, and connection.
  • We are our own healers. Understanding the chakras helps us tune into what we need to feel balanced.
  • Relax, trust, and allow yourself to be nourished. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is let go and receive.
  • Pura Vida isn’t just a phrase—it’s a way of being. A reminder to slow down, embrace the present, and soak in the simple joys.

Favorite Moments & Experiences:

  • Walking the beach at sunset on the first night, feeling the ocean breeze and setting the tone for the week.
  • The incredible meals, from fresh ceviche and locally caught fish to the nourishing breakfasts with gluten-free nut and seed sourdough.
  • Exploring Nosara—whether walking through town, sipping smoothies at Nomadic, or grabbing iced coffee at Organico.
  • Silks yoga at Bodhi Tree Yoga with breathtaking views, along with a Tuk Tuk ride through town.
  • The heart chakra ceremony—cacao, hair brushing, eye gazing, and sharing “I love yous” with new friends.
  • The deep breathwork session that created space to release and reset.
  • Laughing, moving, and feeling free during ecstatic dance, ending with a night swim under the stars.
  • Watching the waves, soaking up the sun, and feeling fully present on the beach.
  • The closing ceremony—reflecting on the week, feeling gratitude, and capturing moments with photos on the beach.

Takeaways: Insights from the Week

  • Prana—life force energy is taken in through breath, food, movement, music, connection, and nature.
  • We are our own healers—learning about chakras gave me tools to recognize imbalances and realign my energy.
  • Trust, relax, and receive—sometimes the most healing thing is simply allowing yourself to rest and be nourished.
  • This trip wasn’t life-changing, but it was soul-nourishing—I’m leaving refreshed, rested, and filled with light and love.
  • Nature is medicine—sunshine, salt water, and locally sourced foods are deeply healing.
  • Connection matters—meeting 15 new women from different backgrounds reminded me of the beauty of shared experience.
  • What my soul needed: quiet, sunshine, space to flow, connect, and BE. Pura vida.

Actions to Bring Home:

  1. Embrace the Pura Vida way of living—simple, joyful, present.
  2. Nourish my mind, body, heart, and soul with good food, movement, and rest.
  3. Enjoy sensory experiences—taste, touch, sound, sight, scent.
  4. Continue creating beautiful, intentional experiences in my daily life.
  5. Check in with my chakras and practice energy medicine when needed.
  6. Find ways to bring more sun, sand, and salt water into my life.

Chakra Lessons & Key Takeaways:

Root Chakra (Grounding, Stability, Security)

  • Belonging is medicine—branch out, grow your roots, find connection.
  • Energy medicine: walking barefoot, grounding, releasing control.

Sacral Chakra (Creativity, Pleasure, Flow)

  • To be sacral is to feel deeply—pleasure, emotions, creativity.
  • Medicine: inner child work, sensuality, receiving, movement.

Solar Plexus (Confidence, Strength, Empowerment)

  • Trust your gut—instincts guide the way.
  • Medicine: eating the right foods, nervous system regulation, surrender.

Heart Chakra (Love, Connection, Compassion)

  • Love is about receiving as much as giving.
  • Medicine: alone time, self-love, forgiveness, asking for help.

Throat Chakra (Authenticity, Expression, Communication)

  • Speak your truth—authenticity attracts the right energy.
  • Medicine: sharing ideas, listening, using your voice.

Third Eye Chakra (Intuition, Inner Knowing, Perception)

  • Move through life intuitively guided.
  • Medicine: imagination, creativity, dreams, spiritual awareness.

Crown Chakra (Higher Consciousness, Wisdom, Connection to the Universe)

  • Trust the divine flow of life.
  • Medicine: silence, surrender, moments of transcendence and bliss.

Getting to Nosara

For anyone looking to visit Nosara, here’s what my travel route looked like:

  • Flight: Direct from MSP to LIR (about 5 hours).
  • Airport Transportation: We used Gypsy Transportation for a smooth 2.5-hour ride to Nosara.

Accommodations: Tres Hermanas Villa

We stayed at the stunning Tres Hermanas Villa, which comfortably housed our group of 15. The villa featured:

  • Three bedrooms inside the main house and a separate bunk room.
  • A fully equipped kitchen and open-air dining/lounge area.
  • A private pool and a covered, open-air yoga studio.
  • An additional room outside the main house.
  • Each room had an outdoor shower—pure magic!
  • A 2-3 minute walk to the beach and Destiny Café (a favorite for coffee and smoothies).
  • Easy access to a walking path leading to a shopping area with Organico (great coffee) and an organic market across the street.

Getting Around: Walk or Tuk Tuk

Nosara is an easy town to explore without a rental car.

  • Our villa was in a prime location, allowing us to walk to the beach, food spots, shopping, and a market.
  • Instead of Uber or Lyft, Tuk Tuks are the way to go! These small, covered motorcycle taxis fit about three people and are a fun and affordable way to get around.
  • We took Tuk Tuks to Bodhi Tree Yoga and when heading home from dinner at La Luna.

Helpful Notes for Travelers

  • Airport Transport: Use Gypsy Cab for a smooth ride from Liberia Airport.
  • Yoga: Check out Bodhi Tree Yoga for incredible open-air classes.
  • Transportation: Tuk Tuks are fun, affordable, and the best way to get around town.
  • Food & Drinks:
    • Organico – My go-to for coffee.
    • La Luna – A must-visit for a sunset dinner.
    • Destiny Café – Great for smoothies and quick bites; get the cloud coffee.
  • Currency & Payments: They have a local currency, but I used my card for most purchases.
  • Tipping: Not as common as in the U.S., but I tipped drivers, house staff, and other service providers.

This was exactly what my soul needed—quiet, sunshine, rest, space to flow, connect, and just be.

Costa Rica, I’ll be back. Until then, I’ll be carrying a little piece of pura vida with me wherever I go. 

Tend to Your Own Garden: Why Focusing on Yourself Attracts the Right People, Relationships, and Opportunities

Tend to Your Own Garden: Why Focusing on Yourself Attracts the Right People, Relationships, and Opportunities

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Imagine your life as a garden. Every action you take, every boundary you set, and every habit you build is like planting seeds and tending to the soil. If you dedicate yourself to nurturing your garden—caring for your personal growth, passions, and well-being—it begins to flourish. What’s fascinating is that when your garden thrives, the right people, opportunities, and experiences are naturally drawn to it.

This isn’t just a nice metaphor; it’s a powerful way to think about how focusing on yourself can transform your life. Let’s dive into why this mindset works and how it can guide you toward the relationships, career paths, and life you truly desire.

1. Authenticity Attracts Connection

When you focus on your own growth and happiness, you align with your most authentic self. This means showing up in the world as you, not as someone trying to meet external expectations or please others. Authenticity is magnetic.

The right people—those who value and align with who you truly are—will gravitate toward you. In contrast, when you’re constantly chasing external validation or trying to be someone you’re not, you risk attracting relationships and opportunities that feel hollow or unfulfilling.

2. The Energy You Put Out Matters

Think of the energy you carry like a light. When you prioritize self-care, joy, and fulfillment, you radiate positivity and confidence. This energy draws in like-minded people and opportunities.

On the flip side, if your energy is rooted in desperation, frustration, or overextension, it can repel what you’re trying so hard to bring into your life. Tending to your garden ensures your energy is aligned with abundance and possibility.

3. Clarity Comes from Within

When you focus on your own garden, you develop clarity about what you truly value and desire. This clarity helps you recognize opportunities that align with your goals and filter out distractions that don’t serve your growth.

For example, instead of saying yes to a job that doesn’t align with your passions, you hold out for a role that matches your values. Or instead of settling for relationships that drain you, you choose connections that nourish and inspire you.

4. The Power of Magnetizing, Not Forcing

One of the most profound lessons of tending to your own garden is learning to let go of the need to force outcomes. When you stop chasing and start focusing inward, you create space for the right people and opportunities to come to you.

This isn’t about passivity; it’s about cultivating patience and trust. You still plant seeds and put in the work, but you understand that what’s meant for you will come when the timing is right.

5. Your Garden Sets the Standard

When your life is rich with joy, self-respect, and purpose, you set a high standard for what you welcome into it. You’re no longer willing to accept less than what aligns with the beauty and harmony you’ve cultivated in your garden.

This standard naturally attracts relationships and opportunities that match your energy, because people and circumstances that don’t align will fall away.

How to Start Tending to Your Garden

If you’re ready to focus on your own growth and create a flourishing life, here are some practical tips:

  • Set Boundaries: Protect your time and energy by saying no to things that don’t align with your values or goals.
  • Invest in Yourself: Take up hobbies, learn new skills, or focus on your physical and mental health.
  • Practice Gratitude: Appreciate the progress you’ve made and the beauty already in your garden.
  • Trust the Process: Let go of the need to control outcomes and trust that your efforts will bear fruit in time.

Reflection Questions

As you work on tending to your own garden, take a moment to reflect:

  • What areas of your life need more care and attention right now?
  • Are you chasing external validation, or are you building a life that feels authentic to you?
  • What boundaries could you set to protect your time and energy?

Focusing on your own garden is not selfish—it’s essential. When you nurture your growth and well-being, you create a thriving, abundant life. And in that abundance, the right people, relationships, and opportunities will naturally find their way to you.

Your garden doesn’t need to be perfect; it just needs to be yours. So, start planting, tending, and trusting. Everything you’re looking for will bloom in its own time.

“Tend to your own garden.

The butterflies will come to you when the flowers are in bloom.” 

– Unknown

20 Things to Avoid at Work to Maintain a Stellar Professional Image

20 Things to Avoid at Work to Maintain a Stellar Professional Image

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In the corporate world, maintaining a polished professional image isn’t just about how you dress or speak in meetings. It’s about how you carry yourself day in and day out—in conversations, emails, and even those casual chats at happy hours. To help you shine at work and build a reputation as a trustworthy, collaborative, and competent professional, here’s a list of things to avoid in the workplace and why steering clear of them is key to your success.

1. Complaining Instead of Taking Action

It’s easy to vent about problems, but without offering solutions, it can come across as unproductive. Instead, focus on being solution-oriented. Employers value those who don’t just identify issues but also take steps to address them.

2. Talking Negatively About Colleagues

Workplace gossip or criticism erodes trust and can make you appear unprofessional. Foster collaboration by focusing on the positive qualities of your teammates. If you have constructive feedback, share it respectfully and privately.

3. Not Taking Credit Where Credit Is Deserved

Diminishing your accomplishments or letting others take credit for your work can hurt your career. Advocate for yourself when appropriate by acknowledging your contributions during reviews or team discussions.

4. Sending Sensitive Content Over Chat or Email

Emails and chat messages can be forwarded or misinterpreted. If you wouldn’t be comfortable with your words being shared widely, rethink how you communicate sensitive topics.

5. Making Best Friends with Someone on Your Direct Team

While it’s great to be friendly with colleagues, overly close relationships within your immediate team can lead to perceptions of favoritism or unprofessional behavior. Maintain boundaries to keep work relationships balanced.

6. Gossiping About Office Rumors or Leadership Decisions

Speculating about leadership moves or spreading unverified information can damage trust and morale. Stick to facts and focus on your own responsibilities.

7. Overcommitting to Tasks You Can’t Realistically Complete

It’s tempting to say yes to every request, but overcommitting can lead to burnout and missed deadlines. Be honest about your capacity and prioritize effectively.

8. Interrupting Others in Meetings or Dominating Discussions

Collaboration thrives on mutual respect. Listen actively, give others the floor, and share your thoughts concisely. This fosters a culture of inclusion and respect.

9. Publicly Criticizing Colleagues or Their Work

Feedback is important, but public criticism can embarrass others and create tension. Share constructive feedback privately and tactfully to preserve relationships.

10. Neglecting to Follow Through on Promises or Assignments

Reliability is a cornerstone of professionalism. If you commit to a task, ensure you deliver on time or communicate promptly if issues arise.

11. Engaging in Passive-Aggressive Communication

Snarky comments or indirect complaints undermine your credibility. Be direct and respectful when addressing concerns.

12. Bringing Personal Drama into Professional Spaces

Everyone has challenges, but oversharing personal issues can blur professional boundaries. Seek support from trusted friends or counselors outside of work.

13. Taking Part in Cliques or Exclusive Workplace Groups

Cliques can alienate colleagues and create division. Instead, aim to build inclusive relationships with a wide range of team members.

14. Oversharing Personal Life Details

While some personal anecdotes can foster connection, oversharing can make others uncomfortable. Maintain a balance between professional and personal interactions.

15. Complaining About Leadership Without Constructive Feedback

Criticizing leaders without offering solutions can paint you as negative. If you see opportunities for improvement, share them in a constructive and respectful manner.

16. Blaming Others for Mistakes Instead of Owning Your Part

Accountability earns respect. When mistakes happen, own your role and focus on solutions rather than deflecting blame.

17. Using Company Resources for Personal Gain

From time to equipment, company resources should be used for professional purposes. Misuse can damage your reputation and lead to disciplinary action.

18. Ignoring or Dismissing Feedback

Feedback is a gift, even when it’s hard to hear. Use it as an opportunity to grow and improve, showing that you value your professional development.

19. Engaging in Office Politics to Manipulate Outcomes

Politics can breed distrust and create a toxic environment. Focus on transparency, fairness, and collaboration to build authentic relationships.

20. Sharing Confidential Company Information

Breach of confidentiality not only violates trust but could have legal repercussions. Always handle sensitive information with care and discretion.

Why This Matters

Maintaining a positive professional image isn’t just about protecting your reputation—it’s about creating an environment where everyone feels respected, valued, and motivated to succeed. By avoiding these behaviors, you’ll position yourself as a trusted, collaborative, and effective team player.

Pro Tip: Regularly reflect on your workplace interactions and ask yourself, “Am I contributing to a healthy, productive environment?” This awareness can guide you in consistently showing up as the best version of yourself.

What other workplace behaviors do you avoid? Share your insights in the comments!

Life as a Lab: How Embracing Experiments Can Help You Grow

Life as a Lab: How Embracing Experiments Can Help You Grow

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Have you ever faced a setback that left you feeling stuck or discouraged? Maybe it was a failed relationship, a career move that didn’t pan out, or a health goal that didn’t quite stick. What if, instead of labeling it a failure, you viewed it as an experiment? By shifting your mindset, you can turn life’s challenges into opportunities for learning and growth. Welcome to the concept of life experiments, where every experience becomes data for discovering your best self.

What Are Life Experiments?

Life experiments are intentional trials where you test new ideas, paths, or habits to see what works for you. The beauty of this approach is that the goal isn’t perfection or success. Instead, it’s about gathering information, exploring options, and learning more about yourself along the way.

For example, after a recent breakup, you might decide to focus on being single and enjoying your own company. This can become an experiment in self-discovery—testing what brings you joy, fulfillment, and peace without relying on a partner.

Why Experimenting Is Better Than Striving for Perfection

When you treat life as a series of experiments, the pressure to “get it right” disappears. Here are some key benefits:

  • Low-Stakes Mindset: Experiments invite curiosity, not perfection. There’s no failure, only feedback.
  • Adaptability: If something doesn’t work, you can pivot without feeling defeated.
  • Self-Discovery: Each experiment reveals more about your preferences, boundaries, and potential.

For instance, I’ve learned this summer that leaving room for spontaneity often leads to the best memories. Whether it’s jumping into a lake with friends or spending a spontaneous night out, experimenting with “less planning, more fun” has taught me the value of letting go.

How to Design Your Own Life Experiments

Ready to start experimenting? Here’s a simple framework:

  1. Pick an Area: Identify where you feel curious or stuck. This could be your career, health, social life, or personal growth.
  2. Set a Hypothesis: What do you hope to learn or test? For example, “Will joining a new community group help me feel more connected?”
  3. Define Your Parameters: Decide how long you’ll try this experiment and what “data” you’ll collect (e.g., how you feel, what you learn).
  4. Reflect: After the experiment, ask what worked, what didn’t, and what you’d like to carry forward.

Examples of Life Experiments

To inspire you, here are some life experiments to consider:

  • Career: Shadow someone in a field you’re curious about or take on a freelance project to test a new path.
  • Health: Commit to a week of daily movement or try a new fitness class like yoga or pickleball.
  • Social Life: Host a gathering where you mix different friend groups or attend an event where you know no one.
  • Creativity: Write a poem each day for a month or enroll in a painting class to explore a hidden talent.
  • Personal Growth: Experiment with journaling, meditation, or practicing gratitude to see how it impacts your mindset.

What to Do When an Experiment “Fails”

Not every experiment will go as planned, and that’s okay. When something doesn’t work out, here’s how to reframe it:

  • Ask What You Learned: What did this experience teach you about yourself or the situation?
  • See the Bigger Picture: Sometimes, an experiment reveals what you don’t want, which is just as valuable.
  • Try Again: Adjust your approach and run a new experiment with what you’ve learned.

Bringing Experiments Into Everyday Life

Here are a few tips to make life experiments a habit:

  • Start small. Pick manageable experiments that don’t feel overwhelming.
  • Keep a journal. Document your experiments and the insights you gain.
  • Embrace curiosity. Detach from specific outcomes and focus on the process.

Life is a series of trials, and every experiment is an opportunity to learn, grow, and get closer to your true self. Whether you’re navigating relationships, exploring career changes, or simply trying to figure out what makes your soul shine, remember that it’s all part of the process.

What area of your life could use a little experimenting? Reflect on where you’re feeling stuck or curious, and design a small experiment to test the waters.

The World Needs Your Gifts: How to Step into Your Power

The World Needs Your Gifts: How to Step into Your Power

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The world is a richer, more vibrant place because of the unique gifts we each bring to it. Yet, many of us hesitate to step into our power, unsure of what we truly have to offer or held back by self-doubt. Recognizing and sharing your gifts is not just about fulfilling your purpose—it’s about making the world a better place. Let’s explore how to uncover your unique contributions, overcome self-doubt, and embrace the impact you’re meant to have.

Recognizing Your Unique Contributions

No one else in the world sees or experiences life exactly as you do. Your perspective, talents, and experiences shape the way you contribute to your community, your work, and the people around you. Recognizing your gifts starts with the belief that you have something valuable to offer—because you do.

Why it matters:

  • Your gifts create ripples: Even small acts of kindness or creativity can inspire and uplift others.
  • They bring fulfillment: Using your talents aligns you with your purpose, making life more meaningful.
  • The world benefits: Your unique contributions fill gaps and meet needs that only you can address.

Take a moment to think: What are the things you’re naturally drawn to? What comes easily to you but feels like magic to others? These are clues to your unique gifts.

Exercises to Uncover Your Gifts

If you’re unsure of your gifts, don’t worry—they’re already within you, waiting to be discovered. Here are a few exercises to help you uncover and recognize them:

  1. Journal Your Strengths:
    Set aside time to reflect on your natural talents and strengths. Answer these prompts:
    • What activities make you lose track of time?
    • What do people often compliment or ask for your help with?
    • What challenges have you overcome, and how has that shaped you?
  2. Seek Feedback from Friends and Family:
    Sometimes, others can see our gifts more clearly than we can. Reach out to people you trust and ask:
    • What do you think I’m really good at?
    • How have I positively impacted your life?
    • What’s a unique quality I bring to our relationship or community?
  3. Reflect on Your Joy:
    Pay attention to what brings you joy and energy. Often, your gifts align with the things that light you up. Make a list of the activities or moments where you felt most alive and fulfilled.

Overcoming Self-Doubt

Once you’ve identified your gifts, the next step is to overcome the fears and doubts that may hold you back from fully stepping into your power. It’s natural to feel uncertain or question your worth, but remember: self-doubt is just a voice, not the truth.

Strategies to silence self-doubt:

  1. Reframe Negative Thoughts:
    Instead of thinking, “I’m not good enough,” remind yourself: “I’m learning and growing every day.” Positive affirmations can rewire your mindset over time.
  2. Take Small Steps:
    You don’t need to leap into the deep end right away. Start small by sharing your gifts with people you trust or in low-stakes settings. Confidence grows with practice.
  3. Celebrate Progress:
    Acknowledge and celebrate even the smallest steps forward. Every time you use your gifts, you’re making an impact, no matter how big or small.
  4. Connect to Your “Why”:
    Remember why you’re sharing your gifts. Whether it’s to help others, express yourself, or make a difference, anchoring yourself in your purpose can help quiet doubts.

Embracing Your Purpose

Stepping fully into your gifts means allowing yourself to be seen and heard—to take up space in the world in a way that feels authentic and impactful. It’s about leaning into your unique talents and trusting that the world needs what you have to offer.

Here’s how to embrace your purpose:

  • Declare It: Write down who you are and what you’re here to do. Keep it somewhere visible as a daily reminder.
  • Take Aligned Action: Look for opportunities to use your gifts in ways that align with your values and passions.
  • Build a Supportive Community: Surround yourself with people who encourage and uplift you. They’ll remind you of your worth when self-doubt creeps in.
  • Give Yourself Permission: Let go of the need for perfection or external validation. Trust that your gifts are enough just as they are.

Final Thoughts

You are here for a reason, and the world is waiting for your light. Recognizing, sharing, and stepping into your gifts is a journey of courage and self-discovery, but it’s one that can transform both your life and the lives of others.

Take a deep breath and step fully into your power. The world needs you—just as you are, with all the unique gifts you bring.

What’s one step you’ll take today to embrace your gifts?

Navigating the Feeling of Directionlessness in Your Twenties

Navigating the Feeling of Directionlessness in Your Twenties

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Your twenties are often described as a time to explore, grow, and find your footing in the world. But what happens when you feel like you’re stuck, unsure of your next step, or completely directionless? If you’re experiencing this, you’re not alone. In fact, it’s incredibly common, and here’s why that’s okay—and what you can do about it.

Why Feeling Directionless in Your Twenties is Normal

1. Societal Pressure

There’s often an unspoken expectation to have everything figured out: your career, relationships, finances, and future. But life rarely follows a straight path, and societal pressures can make you feel like you’re falling behind when you’re actually right on track for your unique journey.

2. Big Life Transitions

Your twenties are filled with major changes, like moving out, starting a job, ending a relationship, or even switching careers. These shifts can feel overwhelming and leave you questioning your direction.

3. The Exploration Phase

This decade is meant to be about trial and error. It’s a time to test the waters, figure out what resonates with you, and pivot when something doesn’t feel right.

4. Comparison Culture

Social media often exacerbates feelings of inadequacy. Seeing curated versions of others’ lives can make you feel like you’re the only one struggling. Remember: everyone’s journey is different, and the highlight reels don’t tell the full story.

Reframing the Experience

Instead of seeing directionlessness as a problem, consider it an opportunity. This period is about exploration, self-discovery, and growth. Clarity often comes through action, even if it feels uncertain at first. Trust that you’re learning, even when the path feels unclear.

Practical Steps to Navigate Feeling Directionless

1. Reconnect with Yourself

  • Reflect on what brings you joy or curiosity. Journaling, meditation, or simply spending time in nature can help you tune into your inner voice.
  • Ask yourself: What excites me? What values matter most to me?

2. Explore Without Commitment

  • Try new hobbies, take courses, or volunteer. Exposure to different activities and people can spark unexpected passions.
  • Remember, exploration isn’t about finding the perfect answer; it’s about learning what works and what doesn’t.

3. Set Small, Flexible Goals

  • Break big dreams into manageable steps. For example, “Attend one networking event this month” or “Read a book about a field I’m curious about.”
  • Allow yourself to pivot as you gain more clarity.

4. Build Skills

  • Pursue certifications, online courses, or projects that align with your interests. Even if you’re unsure of your final destination, building skills will always serve you.

5. Seek Support

  • Talk to mentors, coaches, or peers who can provide guidance and perspective. Sometimes an outside view can help you see possibilities you’ve overlooked.

6. Practice Self-Care

  • Take care of your mental and physical health. This is the foundation for navigating uncertainty with resilience.

Journal Prompts to Guide Reflection

  1. What’s one thing I’ve always wanted to try but never had the courage to?
  2. How would I define a meaningful life right now?
  3. What are my top three core values, and how can I align my actions with them?

Words of Encouragement

If you’re unsure what to pursue in life right now, consider this: Pursue yourself. Focus on becoming the healthiest, happiest, most present, and most confident version of who you are. When you take the time to nurture yourself, the right path will often reveal itself naturally.

Your twenties are about figuring things out, not having everything figured out. Feeling directionless isn’t a failure; it’s a part of the process. Trust yourself, take small steps forward, and remember—you’re not alone. The clarity you seek will come, one step at a time.

2024: A Year of Duality and Growth

2024: A Year of Duality and Growth

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WOW, this was a year. 2024, took me on one wild ride—from the highest highs to the lowest lows, from moments of clarity to the vast unknown.

This year was as much about endings as beginnings. It reminded me that change is the only constant, and even in uncertainty, there’s magic in trusting the flow. From heartbreak to healing, adventure to stillness, and letting go to holding on, 2024 taught me how to embrace duality—the balance of joy and pain, growth and discomfort, clarity and confusion.

Stepping Boldly into 2024

My word of the year was bold, and 2024 challenged me to live by it in every way possible. Being bold meant taking risks—whether it was traveling solo, leaning into vulnerability, or stepping out of my comfort zone to pursue new connections and opportunities. It meant speaking up for myself, trusting my intuition, and saying yes to the unknown.

I stepped boldly into growth, allowing heartbreak to crack me open to greater self-love and clarity. I dared to let go of what no longer served me and embraced the freedom that comes with trusting life’s flow. Being bold wasn’t always easy, but it was always worth it.

2024 Taught Me:

  • Even when life feels uncertain, there’s magic in the unknown and joy in letting go of control to embrace the adventure of life.
  • Some of the best memories come from unplanned, spontaneous moments, and life is more fun when I trust the flow.
  • I’m more resilient and stronger than I ever thought possible, capable of facing challenges and emerging brighter.
  • The right people will stick by me, even when I don’t have it all figured out, and nurturing friendships is one of the greatest investments I can make.
  • The power of true connection—opening up to others creates beauty, strength, and a sense of belonging.
  • Taking risks, stepping out of my comfort zone, and doing things “for the plot” lead to the most exciting and rewarding chapters in life.
  • Heartbreak doesn’t break me—it helps me rebuild, and sometimes I need to thank the past for leaving to embrace a better future.
  • Growth comes from life’s toughest lessons, and healing is a never-ending journey of rediscovery and renewal.
  • Gratitude transforms everything, turning what I have into enough and every moment into something to cherish.
  • Life is short, so I should celebrate everything—big or small—and find joy in experiences, not things.
  • Endings can be new beginnings, and sometimes the best chapters start when I close the old ones.
  • If they wanted to, they would—and I deserve effort, consistency, and commitment in my relationships.
  • Independence is empowering, but leaning on others brings strength and community when I need it most.
  • Life is about seasons and storms, and with every challenge comes the opportunity to grow and find clarity.
  • My twenties are a revolving door of losing and finding myself, each cycle shaping new layers of who I am.
  • My rediscovered love of yoga and movement reconnects me with my mind, body, and soul, grounding and healing me.
  • Healing tools like journaling, breathwork, and sound baths work magic, helping me release what no longer serves me.
  • Life often works itself out when I’m open to the surprises and opportunities the universe brings my way.
  • Everything happens for a reason—people, lessons, and challenges arrive to align me with my path.
  • The most important relationship is the one I have with myself—learning to love and nurture who I am lays the foundation for everything else.
  • Old keys won’t open new doors, and leaving what no longer serves me makes space for something better.
  • Travel isn’t just about places—it’s about new perspectives, connections, and growth beyond my comfort zone.
  • Some of life’s best insights and growth come from circles and communities of like-minded women.
  • Comparison is the thief of joy—everyone’s journey is unique, and embracing mine is enough.
  • As I walk, the path appears, and trusting the process leads to unexpected and beautiful destinations.
  • Heartbreak, uncertainty, and pain can be alchemized into growth, strength, and beauty when I embrace the lessons within them.
  • What I seek from others is often what I need to give myself—love, acceptance, and compassion start within.
  • Dogs are pure joy and a reminder to embrace the simple pleasures of life.
  • Every connection—whether brief or lasting—serves a purpose, shaping my journey in ways I may not always see at first.

And most of all:

  • Life is a beautiful, evolving journey—one where I’m constantly learning, growing, and discovering the joy in every moment.

2024 Travels:

This year took me across the globe, and each journey was a chapter of its own:

  • Turks & Caicos: Kicking off the year surrounded by turquoise waters and family warmth.

  • Grand Cayman: Adventures with friends, laughter, and unforgettable sunsets.

  • Waco, TX: A meaningful trip filled with family time and exploring small towns.

  • Copenhagen, Denmark: My first solo trip—a transformative experience of independence and discovery.

  • Charleston, SC: A birthday celebration filled with charm, history, and quality time with my mom.
Travel this year wasn’t just about exploring new places; it was about expanding my perspective and stepping boldly into the unknown.

Top 10 Phrases & Mottos:

  1. Trust the flow.
  2. Do it for the plot.
  3. Let it go.
  4. Gratitude transforms everything.
  5. The most important relationship is the one I have with myself.
  6. Sometimes the path appears as you walk it.
  7. Life is about experiences, not things.
  8. Heartbreak cracks you open for something greater.
  9. Comparison is the thief of joy.
  10. Live for the journey, not the destination.

Top 10 Words to Describe 2024:

  1. Transformative – I’ve gone through significant personal growth and change.
  2. Resilient – I’ve proven my ability to bounce back and adapt, especially during challenging times.
  3. Adventurous – This year has been about embracing the unknown, whether through travel, spontaneous decisions, or new experiences.
  4. Grateful – I’ve focused on appreciating the people, moments, and lessons that came my way.
  5. Empowered – I’ve stepped into your strength, learning to trust yourself and take charge of my journey.
  6. Connected – My relationships, both personal and professional, have deepened and expanded.
  7. Joyful – I’ve made room for fun, play, and spontaneity, finding joy in the unexpected.
  8. Reflective – I’ve taken time to pause, learn from the past, and grow from my experiences.
  9. Community-driven – This year has been about building connections with like-minded people and growing within supportive circles.
  10. Free – I’ve embraced letting go of control and have found liberation in being more open to the flow of life.

A Year for the Plot

2024 reminded me that life is about the plot—the messy, beautiful, unpredictable moments that shape who we are. It taught me to embrace the duality of joy and pain, growth and discomfort, and certainty and confusion. Through it all, I’ve learned that the journey is just as important as the destination.

Looking Forward

As I close the chapter on 2024, I’m carrying its lessons with me into 2025. This year taught me that life is an ever-evolving journey—one where I’m constantly learning, growing, and discovering new layers of strength and joy. I’m grateful for every moment, every memory, and every lesson that shaped me along the way.

What lessons did 2024 teach you? Take a moment to reflect, celebrate your growth, and look forward to the next chapter.

Here’s to all the highs, the lows, and everything in between. Looking forward to what 2025 holds.

The storm, painful as it is, can be a gift.

The storm, painful as it is, can be a gift.

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When you come out of the storm,  you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what it’s all about. 

– Haruki Murakami 

This year, I’ve learned what it means to walk through a storm—to face heartbreak, uncertainty, and the profound waves of change that come with letting go. Haruki Murakami’s words have resonated deeply with me: “When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what it’s all about.”

At the start of this year, I didn’t see the storm coming. I was in a long-term relationship, comfortable but unknowingly settling, and my life felt mapped out. Then, everything shifted. My five-year relationship ended, leaving me to confront not only the heartbreak but also the loss of the future I thought I had. I felt disoriented, like the ground beneath me had disappeared.

But here’s what I’ve discovered: the storm, painful as it is, can be a gift. It strips away what no longer serves you and forces you to rebuild, to redefine who you are. In the process, you find strength and clarity you never knew you had. It’s messy and raw, but it’s real. And on the other side, you emerge—not the same person who walked in, but someone stronger, more self-aware, and more aligned with their true self.

For me, this journey has been about coming back to myself. I’ve learned to find joy in my own company, to cherish my independence, and to nurture friendships that fill my soul. This year, I traveled solo to Copenhagen, threw a party for my birthday—a gathering of friends who showed up to celebrate me, and hosted a Christmas party that brought so much warmth and laughter into my aparment. I also went camping for the first time, stepping outside my comfort zone and discovering a new appreciation for nature and simplicity. Each of these experiences was a moment of pure joy and gratitude, a reminder that the love and connection I was seeking externally already existed within my community and within myself.

I’ve also learned to let go of control. This summer, I stopped over-planning and embraced spontaneity. From jumping into a lake with friends to traveling solo to Copenhagen, I found magic in the unexpected. These moments taught me that life’s most beautiful experiences often happen when you leave room for the wildcard.

The storm has changed me. It’s helped me see that heartbreak doesn’t just break you—it breaks you open. It’s an invitation to grow, to heal, and to create a life that’s even better than the one you thought you wanted. As painful as it was, I’ve come to thank my ex for letting me go. I realize now that staying would have meant settling, and I deserve so much more than that.

If you’re in a storm right now, I want you to know that it’s okay to feel lost and scared. It’s okay to cry and to not have all the answers. But trust this: you will come out on the other side. And when you do, you’ll look back and see how far you’ve come, how much you’ve grown, and how beautifully you’ve transformed.

Murakami’s quote isn’t just about surviving the storm; it’s about embracing the change it brings. This year has been my storm, and while I’m still navigating its aftermath, I know I’m not the same person I was. I’m someone stronger, more vibrant, and more open to the possibilities of life.

If you’re reflecting on your own storm, I encourage you to pause and honor your growth. Journal about who you were before the storm and who you are now. Ask yourself: What did the storm take from me, and what did it give me? What am I grateful for in this transformation? You might be surprised at how much beauty there is in the chaos.

The storm changes us, yes, but that’s what it’s all about.